I had a wonderful opportunity yesterday. I got to sing at the Jewish Chapel at West Point. It was simply awe-inspiring to be able to sing at a memorial to a wonderful man, in an absolutely beautiful chapel, in front of an audience that included current cadets.
It was in this setting that I did it again. I have this habit of mothering other people's children. And, I caught myself doing it yesterday. I had driven up with a friend from the chorus and her 8 year old son (if she's reading this, I hope she's not offended by me talking about it!). After the concert, we were in the social hall and she was speaking with some cadets and her son came over by me. I knew he wanted to talk to them but he told me he was too shy. So, I took him by the shoulder and took him (ok, you can say it....I marched him) over. As he tried to dart away, oh, I'm so embarrassed to admit this, I did the instinctive mother move of grabbing him by his collar to hold him there so he would talk to them. I don't know what came over me! My right arm just darted out and grabbed! And, I found myself saying things to the cadets like "we told him he would see soldiers" as I held tight to that collar. I'm sure it came off like a "Billy has two mommies" story!
And, I know this isn't the first time I've done something like this. So, to all the mom's who's children I've (s)mothered, accept my apology!!
It's tough sometimes having no children and an over-active Mommy Brain!
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I've come to the realization that having faith means you have to accept that you may never know "why" things happen. Well, it ain't easy! So, my hope is that writing about my feelings will help me make as much sense of life as I can!
About Me
- Lisa
- New Jersey
- Hi, thanks for visiting! I'm very open about my long struggle with infertility. My theory is that, by putting yourself out there, you can help others and learn from anyone willing to open up to you! So, feel free to ask me anything you want and tell me about your experiences!
Hey, I'd like to follow along!
Infertility History
- Here's a high-level account of our cycle history. I can elaborate on any of these steps if anyone has any questions (i.e., over-supressing due to drug mistake, my acupuncture experience, the process of getting on the egg donor list, etc...)
- May '06 - First met with RE
- August '06 - IVF #1, antagon protocol, PREGNANT, ectopic resolved with methotrexate
- October '06 - IVF #2, microflare protocol, medication error, over-supressed, converted to IUI #1, negative, diagnosed with Ovarian Reserve Issues
- January '07 - started acupuncture, body stopped ovulating for 2.5 months
- March '07 - IVF #3, microflare protocol, cancelled due to lack of production, stopped acupuncture
- April '07 - Went for second opinion. Doctor concurred with diagnosis and treatment recommendations of first clinic
- May '07 - Passed donor prep cycle, put our names on the egg donor list (matched twice during IVF #4 but we declined since we got pregnant)
- August '07 - IUI #2 (not enough eggs to do IVF), straight Follistim, negative
- September/October '07 - IVF #4, straight Follistim, PREGNANT, m/c at 7 weeks, D&C
- Feb' 08 - IVF #5, straight Follistim, negative
- May '08 - Met with a new RE and put a gameplan in place to do IVF #6 in August!
- August '08 - IVF #6, Estrogen Priming protocol, only produced 1 follicle, converted to IUI #3, negative
- October '08 - IVF #7, co-flare protocol, negative
- January '09 - phone consultation with THE expert. He validated that we'd done every protocol and technique and should move on to donor egg
- February '09 - matched and accepted egg donor. Preparing for DE IVF...
- March '09 - DE cycle, 23 eggs retrieved, 3 embryos transferred, 1 frozen
- April '09 - pregnant! 2 sacs seen, but, only one developed
- December '09 - our beautiful daughter was born, making us a family of three!
- And, just to complete the picture, some of the other things that happened during our IF struggle
5 comments:
I do this too. Mostly with friends and my sister's children. My sis hates it. I hope your friend wasn't bothered by it too much. It isn't like you ment anything by it.
Girl, I'm with you. I do it all the time. I try to stop though because I know not many people appreciate it. So all in all...I try to catch myself. But it doesn't help being a teacher....that also makes it part of instinct.
Lisa, come over any time and 'mother' my two- I'll never be bothered by it. I'll go get a pedicure! LOL
I do this too - mostly with one friend I have and my nephews. If you have that natural motherly instinct, sometimes you just can't help yourself.
Hey, Lisa, I wasn't the least bit bothered by it! And I'm glad you love my son enough to affectionately get him to overcome his very infrequent shyness. (He's usually fearless with his peers, but older kids and adults give him pause sometimes. He actually walked up to our Mayor yesterday and said "hello"!)
Any time you want to guide, chide or spoil my kid, go for it! (And yes, I do the same to my friends' kids, too.)
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